Feminism as a Product of Lovelessness
As a philosopher (by experience, not by training), I sometimes pick up on the little insights that lead to greater truths. A woman I read about in a Dutch newspaper complained how, for fifty years, men have supposedly regarded women in business as “insane, tiresome, and garish”. Did you catch the little trick she played there?
I did. When I first read that interview, it was instantly clear to me that many women in business had actually been behaving in an insane, tiresome or garish manner — like an uncultured child — and that it had taken career women fifty-some years to improve their behavior.
Yelling at people may work well when you’re targeting a husband who is afraid to lose his one-fuck-a-month deal. But men in business, i.e., men whom you (as a woman) are not sexually or romantically involved with, have a very different attitude toward ‘bossy’ women: We’ve got a job to do. Shape up or go home.
Is it possible that the sort of manipulation games women can play on their love interests don’t work on men in business? Yes! How much of women’s frustration in business stems from their inability to manipulate men and/or subordinates the way she could manipulate a man and/or children in her household? All of it!
The way women have traditionally ‘ruled’ over men (over their fathers, husbands, brothers, and sons) — namely, by using emotional manipulation, yelling, nagging, and accusing — doesn’t have any effect on people who aren’t in any way emotionally related to them. Your colleagues at work aren’t going to be very impressed by your wife skills. If you wish to succeed in business as a woman, and all you can offer are blowjobs, fits of rage, and accusations, people are going to stop wanting to go near you. You are certainly not getting that promotion.
And thanks to the #metoo industry, blowjobs won’t get you ahead anymore, either. The way women may control men at home, using the promise of sex and emotional blackmail, is considered extremely childish behavior on the workfloor. Women who try to apply their natural tactics in a more neutral business setting, where results are more important than feelings, must inevitably fail.
There is an underlying cause here. It is comparable to the phenomenon of a ‘needy man’. A needy man is a one who is desperately in need of a woman’s sex (and love!) that he is willing to do everything for her. Most women know what I’m talking about. They have plenty of experience using and abusing such needy men. Women tend not to find needy men attractive. These men are losers, but they are easily manipulated into giving up free dinner dates (in exchange for being left at the door by the end of the evening, without so much as a kiss).
As needy as beta men can be, women tend to have the same neediness but for a different need. Women need to be valued and loved by a more powerful man, say, one who might rival her own father, an alpha-male, a rare and dominant specimen of the male sex whom women perceive as having power (usually, over other men). This Leader of Men is the one she really craves. This is the one she has sexual fantasies about. Is He not the foremost reason why women began entering the workforce, in hopes of bonding this rare man to her cause? To be loved by him, appreciated, supported, and cared for?
Impossible! The alpha male happens to be the opposite of his needy competitors. The alpha doesn’t need anything at all, not even women. Yet, precisely because of this strong, confident, independent attitude, he succeeds with women where needy men fail. The strongman doesn’t have to fear losing women’s love — he truly doesn’t need them so he uses them to his own advantage. To him, sex is a pastime, and he has lots of it, but it’s certainly not a need.
In the real world, men who rise to power are ones who need very little, but want very much. That allows them to make the sort of ruthless decisions other men would shy away from. One might call such men ‘psychopathic’. I do not consider ruthless behavior a pathology. Rather, it is the instinct of a successful hunter, one who must kill to stay alive. Would you befriend a wolf to eat him later? Successful hunters would. They don’t need friendship. Such ruthlessness even helps to win a following of subordinate men.
Indeed, women in business soon began finding out. Who are the men other men follow? Who are the men other men listen to? Who are the men who have true power over other men and, thus, over society itself? Who are the men most husbands work for? Who are the real leaders of the world? They are the men with Big Wants but Small Needs — as opposed to the beta male who has Big Needs and Small Wants.
In one respect, beta males are like women. Women have Big Needs, too (and Big Wants: a Baby). The beta male is willing to reduce his Wants in order to win women’s favors. This makes the beta male appear weak. The alpha male has Big Wants but needs nothing. He, then, has become immune to women’s manipulations. He doesn’t fear their abandonment. He is truly independent. He leads, and he rules for the good of his society, but he will just as easily kill and destroy.
I believe men’s assessment of women in business since the 1970s must have been fairly veritable: insane, tiresome and garish. Why would men lie? The feminist lady from the newspaper had no trouble accusing all the men in the world of having unfairly mischaracterized women in business. She didn’t say, “We, women, have been behaving ourselves as ungrateful little shits. We, women, have had no prior experience in mature, professional behavior. But we are willing to learn.”
She didn’t say it because she couldn’t say it. Women cannot afford to admit mistakes. It makes them look less-than-perfect. And they *need* all the perfection in order to win the alpha male in the competition with other women. She doesn’t want the Alpha to perceive her flaws. She is too needy.
Needy people can’t learn from their mistakes. Their needs overwhelm them. Feminism was never a movement meant to emancipate women. It is a movement meant to assimilate the outside world into women’s households. Feminist women want to rule over men as though all men were dependent little boys and needy husbands.
All of this stems from a massive lovelessness that feminist women now experience on a daily basis. They tend to be less desirable women who stand little chance in the competition for an actual alpha male, the successful ones they’ve met in business. Though they may get an education and compete with the alpha male, that actually makes them look even less attractive to alpha males, who look for feminine women.
Feminist women are angered and sour over this fact that true alpha males (leaders of men) are not interested in feminist women.
Women in business, of course, look down on the beta males. At home, in her household, most beta women get to rule over their beta husbands. In the real world, though, some men appear to be immune to women’s manipulations. When women began seeing with their own eyes who these actual alpha males were (the ones other men obey in business), career women began losing all remaining interest in these subordinate males. How could a woman think of herself as being married to a subordinate? That would make her less than perfect!
Women began desiring the leaders of business, the ones who rake in all the cash. In response to this realization, namely that there are truly very few alpha males out there, women instantly came to dismiss the subordinate male as useless eaters. Creature to rule over. Feminist women who’ve been in the presence of leading males, but have obviously been rejected by them, have only one course of action left: rancor. To rancorously depose the leading male and establish her own rule over the “unfit men” (beta males).
Out of this lovelessness, a deep feminist hatred for men was born. Firstly, the work floor proved to working women that most men are subordinates, and that few men are leaders. Secondly, feminist women learned that real male leaders aren’t interested in needy women. Rejected by the alpha males, the only way for childless feminist women to win the constant adulation they crave is to demand it from subordinates (children!).
Feminist women have become more like the alpha male (manlier, more ruthless) in their quest to dethrone all the alpha males in hopes of winning the appreciation of their lesser colleagues.
It won’t work. It can’t work. Needy women are, by definition, beta females. Women who need power shall not hold onto it for long. Alpha males shall have no trouble leveling modern society, for they don’t need anything at all.